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Avoid "Shirtsleeves to Shirtsleeves" by Finding Your VoiceGrowing up in a family with significant wealth or a family business can often feel like an exercise in silence. What should you ask? Whom should you ask? When? Is it ever right to talk about such things?The Voice of the Rising Generation speaks directly to those who find themselves living in that silence, the so-called "next generation." Great wealth or a family business can act like a "black hole," sapping the dreams and aspirations of future generations who feel that they can never measure up to the fortune's founder. This book, written by a psychologist, an educator, and a wise counselor who single-handedly changed the landscape of family wealth, diagnoses with economy and precision the cause of entitlement and dependency. It is not too much money or too few chores. It is the failure of rising generations to individuate, that is, to pursue their dreams, develop their resilience, and find their voice.Many books are addressed to parents and grandparents who worry about the effects of wealth on their descendants. Almost alone in the field, this book speaks directly to 20-, 30- and 40-somethings, encouraging them--literally, giving them courage--to meet the challenge of integrating wealth's power into their lives, rather than disappearing into the black hole. Readers will:* Come to understand the true causes of entitlement and dependency* Identify the psychological characteristics of the rising generation and the challenges proper to its development* Clarify their own dreams, work, and vocation* Navigate personal relationships and communication within the context of wealth* Recognize the special challenges faced when rising is delayed until mid-life.If you are a young person who is starting your life's journey and wondering about the effects of parental gifts, trusts, or a family business, this book will offer you questions, reflections, and lessons-learned to help you find your own way. If you are a parent, grandparent, elder, or mentor, The Voice of the Rising Generation can serve the young people in your life as a gift more precious than gold.

The Voice of the Rising Generation: Family Wealth and Wisdom

Preface xiAcknowledgments xiiiIntroduction 1A Well-Known Family 1The Challenge 2The Journey 3Our Approach 6Aids to Navigation 7Chapter 1 Setting Sail 13The Black Hole 14Talking about Silence 17The Very Good Steward 19The Meteor 19Froggy 20The Parallel Universe 21The Anxious Heir 22Mr. Reputable 22The Grand Giver 23Testing the Boundary 23Mentor 26Chapter 2 Rosy-Fingered Dawn 29Awakening 29Rising 30Slings and Arrows 36Chapter 3 Self-Knowledge 43The Center 43Internal and External 44Dreams 45Strengths and Hurdles 48Individuation 51Externals 54The Balance Sheet 56Chapter 4 Facing the Waves 61Getting Away 61Taking the Leap 63Work 63Relationships 73Communication 78Leaving Ithaca 81Chapter 5 The Middle Passage 85The Island of the Lotus-Eaters 85The Middle Passage 87A Forceful Hand 89Self-Advocacy 93Ownership 96Leadership 98Parenting in the Middle Passage 100Questions for Rising on Your Own 102Conclusion 107Another Well-Known Family 107Our Journey Thus Far 109Searching for Elders 112Returning to Mentor 115Flying Away 118Appendix 121Questions for Reflection from the End of the Chapters 121From the Introduction 121From Chapter 1 121From Chapter 2 121From Chapter 3 122From Chapter 4 122From Chapter 5 122From the Conclusion 122Additional Tools 122Possible Educational Pathways 123For the Individual Journey 123For Possible Workshops 124For a Possible Family Gathering 125Session One: Knowing Ourselves 126Session Two: Resilience 128Session Three: Action 129About the Authors 133Index 137